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I have heard so many stories about infidelity and it surely brings me to think a lot about committed relationships. What will I do if it happens to me?
I thought of this idea which I probably will call, Equal Opportunity. Instead of thinking of infidelity as something very negative that requires sorry’s and forgiveness, why not look at it in a positive light? Why not make it a force that will open a door for the “non-cheating” partner to experience the same thing happily? In this context, this isn’t revenge. This is accepting what is and the real human tendencies to be attracted to another person other than their partners.
Society dictates that we should be “loyal” and that we should only “see” one person at a time. Indeed, commitment is something we all are longing for. But the reality of life also dictates that yes, commitment aside, we can still be attracted to so many people at one time.
So this is what Equal opportunity in the context of infidelity;
You and your partner vowed on being loyal, but in a blink of an eye, he or she got tempted by this very attractive colleague of his/hers. They admitted that they did something. This model will make this action a happy moment, like an opportunity-opener for the other partner to choose a person that he/she is attracted to and do the same without feeling remorse or guilt.
As mentioned, this isn’t revenge, it’s just an “opportunity” to get excited about…so, to make things lighter, you and your partner should agree on this model. It’s unlike open relationship because, with Equal Opportunity, you are only allowed to “see” other people if one did it too and is honest about it. No need to apologise because it’ll be viewed as something positive.
I don’t know if I will be able to embrace this concept too. I know it’s crazy but this is another way of embracing human tendencies and taking things lighter than it is usually taken.
Hmm, I’m just blabbering….bored! Chey! Don’t read this! =b