The Friendship Factor

This was a gift from tita Ellen last Christmas. Finished reading it 2 weeks ago but its just now that im finding time posting something about it.

Here are some nice thoughts from the book;

A. Five ways to deepen your relationship.

1.Assign top priority to your relationship.

2.Cultivate Transparency.

3.Dare to talk about your affection.

4.Learn the gestures of love.

5.Create space in your relationship.

B. Five Guidelines in Cultivating Intimacy

1.Use your body to demostrate warmth.

2.Be liberal with praise.

3.Schedule leisurely breaks for conversation.

4.Learn to listen.

5.Talk freely about your feelings.


Here are some interesting quotations from the book:

"There is nothing that will turn a man on more than knowing that a woman really cares for him"

"The tragedy is that the love goes unrequitted simply because it is undeclared"

"If a woman has a reputation for being hard to get, but for some reason is easy for the subject to get, she is highly appealing."

"The philosophy, ‘You do your thing, and I’ll do mine", if allowed to become the key-stone of your relationship, means that you no longer have a relationship."

"Alice Miller’s rule of the thumb is a good one: ‘If it is very painful for you to criticize your friends, you are safe in doing it. But if you take the slightest pleasure in it, that is the time you hold your tongue’"

"Samuel Johnson puts the cap on the subject: ‘God himself, Sir, does not propose to judge a man until his life is over. Why should you and I?’"

"As a smart mother said to me recently, ‘there are two lasting things I would like to give my kids. One is the roots; the other is wings. The first one is easier than the second.’"

"The first duty of love is to listen – Paul Tillich"


Book’s interesting, full of stories we all can relate to, full of life’s lessons which are somewhat difficult to follow.. Despite the fact that lessons in it were somehow idealistic, I loved the book cos its from my first and only love’s (as of now) mother.

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